Please don’t let your parents “over-stress”!
First, the old man is eager to achieve self-worth. It is completely normal for the elderly to focus their feelings and life on their children after retirement.
The reason for this phenomenon is that the elderly suddenly do nothing, resulting in a large psychological gap, becoming particularly need and value others, society respect and care for themselves.
However, because the circle of life has become narrow, the emotional dependence of the elderly on their children has become stronger and stronger. I hope that I can get emotional satisfaction and catharsis in my children. Through the care and concern of my children, I will cause my children to have more of themselves.Value and love.
At the same time, it is also valuable to prove that you are useful and continually suggesting yourself in this way.
Second, excessive concern for health risks Excessive care for children and grandchildren will make the elderly in a state of tension and anxiety for a long time, and elderly people with high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease can easily become ill.
Peng Yu believes that the elderly who are “concerned with psychology” can actually avoid excessive care through self-regulation.
First of all, the elderly must learn to get along with their children and grandchildren in a normal state of mind, that is, moderate care, moderate dismissal, and moderate separation.
Secondly, the elderly should cultivate more interest, often stringing together, chatting, making friends, and thus gaining more emotional support.
In addition, the elderly should also master some self-regulating skills, such as watching TV entertainment programs when depression occurs; when you are feeling flustered, scared, restless, etc., you can listen to music and take deep breaths.
三、子女应多与老人沟通 现实生活中，很多人，尤其是子女，对老人们的“牵挂心理”都存在理解误区，认为老人事事都要插手、件件都要当家，这是独断专行的Old-school parents style.
In fact, this is precisely the psychological manifestation of the elderly who are eager to be cared for.
Therefore, children should be more sympathetic with the elderly with a sympathetic understanding of the attitude, must not alienate the elderly, and can not show the feeling of boredom.